Angry Working Mom

Guilt

No one knows guilt like the working Mom. A whore in church has nothing on this Mom. It's something that we try to push back and not think about but it's always there chomping at the bit to bring even the strongest to their knees.

There are too many stories to share. It's an every day occurrence. My 1 YO is well one and you think whoa, this has flown past and I wasn't there for every single second of it. My 6 YO says Mom are you coming to field day? Well honey let me check the almighty calendar..No, I'll be in DC on field day.

From the over compensating weekend craft-a-poo-looza to the over the top parties I throw for the neighborhood kids it's all about guilt; so when I heard the following my heart melted and I had an all time low moment.

I over heard a Mom talking about my kid. First I normally would have flown in to "Momma bear" mode and taken the Bee-yatch down but this time she was really talking about me. The conversation went something like this: "Are you inviting (my kiddo) to the party"? Well my daughter asked me to but no I'm not. The other lady: "Why not"? Well her Mom works..oh yea the other woman says back. She was referring to the logistics of pick up etc and how I couldn't make a 3:30 play date happen.

This 1st really pissed me off, but after that it made me think. I am being judged in a way I had never even known about and it was hitting me in nads. The thing is this: I can't do anything about this. I can't fix this and I can't change it. It is what it is. 

So as a working Mom with aforementioned self-imposed guilt trips galore I just go on, do the best I can, know that I am working (it's not like I put my kids in daycare to go to lunch or play tennis) and make our reality the best that it can be.

You know what I hate...?

You know what I hate?

I hate it when when women who are a couple of years older than I am diminish my abilities as a parent! It happens to me all the time. I was 24 when we had our first. My husband is 10 years older and he was ready. I had friends who had been dealing with infertility for years so I truly thought it would take at least a year to have a baby. Well, it did not! 21 days later I had double lines and my life changed forever.

I was used to this "you are too young to be a mother attitude with my first, but now being 31 with my second I am (frankly) getting pissed at this attitude that I am inexperienced and even unfit to be a mom because I am perceived as the young Mom.

I sat through a dinner tonight listening to dig after dig from a mom who is married to a Dr. who stays at home with her 4 kids. She is a whopping 5 years older than I am.  I knew it was coming and then my friend who is her age said "you know she is just 31". The other lady laughed "Ha" she said  you have no idea"! No idea about what exactly? I have 2 kids, run a business and yes I am fucking 31,sue me!

This is what fuels Angry working Mom! It's the pain in the ass Moms who think that they know more than you because they are (wait for this) 5 years older than you. Seriously!? I guess I kick your ass because I run a business and you stay home? That is just as absurd! 

I am so over all the Moms that think because of what ever reason they have a right to judge other moms! Hey lady: "Screw you"!

She also managed to ask how the two of us knew each other with my friend living in the super duper expensive section of our town and I living in (gasp) the just kind of pricey area. She said it just like that "How do you know each other living in such different neighborhoods"? Really? We live across the street from each other.

OK..just out of full disclosure there were several margaritas served at this dinner! I am typing after 3 so please forgive my grammar! Oh and I am still taking care of 2 kids, running a business and yes I am still just 31!