No one knows guilt like the working Mom. A whore in church has nothing on this Mom. It's something that we try to push back and not think about but it's always there chomping at the bit to bring even the strongest to their knees.
There are too many stories to share. It's an every day occurrence. My 1 YO is well one and you think whoa, this has flown past and I wasn't there for every single second of it. My 6 YO says Mom are you coming to field day? Well honey let me check the almighty calendar..No, I'll be in DC on field day.
From the over compensating weekend craft-a-poo-looza to the over the top parties I throw for the neighborhood kids it's all about guilt; so when I heard the following my heart melted and I had an all time low moment.
I over heard a Mom talking about my kid. First I normally would have flown in to "Momma bear" mode and taken the Bee-yatch down but this time she was really talking about me. The conversation went something like this: "Are you inviting (my kiddo) to the party"? Well my daughter asked me to but no I'm not. The other lady: "Why not"? Well her Mom works..oh yea the other woman says back. She was referring to the logistics of pick up etc and how I couldn't make a 3:30 play date happen.
This 1st really pissed me off, but after that it made me think. I am being judged in a way I had never even known about and it was hitting me in nads. The thing is this: I can't do anything about this. I can't fix this and I can't change it. It is what it is.
So as a working Mom with aforementioned self-imposed guilt trips galore I just go on, do the best I can, know that I am working (it's not like I put my kids in daycare to go to lunch or play tennis) and make our reality the best that it can be.